Understanding the Foundations – Your Emotional Core

What if I told you that your emotions run your day? That probably doesn’t sound like good news to you, does it? The fact is that people don’t understand or appreciate how important emotions are, and how significant their role is in shaping our perceptions, our understanding of self, and our reactions. Whether it’s seemingly pointless decisions like choosing what to eat for lunch, whether to skip dessert, or whether you’ve worked hard enough for that extra slice of cake or bigger, and more significant decisions like deciding to apply for a new job, or take a relationship to the next level, our emotions affect just about everything we do.

With that understanding, if we are to live life to the fullest, and approach our daily tasks in a positive way, we must take care of our emotional health. Our emotional health is a dynamic, ever-changing beast! We are constantly responding to what’s going on around us, our physical health, our mental health, the state of affairs in the world, and the state of our own lives. Having good emotional health means that we are able to regulate our emotions, thoughts and feelings in order to make better decisions, attract the right energy, and navigate life’s challenges with confidence and resilience. Working on your emotional health allows you to feel at peace with yourself. 

This isn’t behavior modification!

I don’t believe in behavior modification. The simple reason for that is because it is often short-lived and momentary, like putting a band-aid on a wound that clearly needs more serious attention. To truly take control of your responses and actions, and live an elevated life, you must learn to appreciate and understand your emotions – where they come from, what causes them, and how they can modify your behavior.

Being emotionally healthy doesn’t mean that life will be smooth sailing. But sometimes we experience negative feelings that don’t serve us in the long run. What’s more, negative emotions can have a detrimental effect on our health and wellbeing. This is the only way you can be proactive, and not reactive – meaning you can catch yourself thinking of an action, before it reaches a stage where you’ve already acted.

Why do emotions matter

The reason that emotions play such a significant role in our decisions is quite straightforward. We are wired to make meaning out of the experiences in our life. This shapes our perceptions, our decisions, and ultimately our actions that determine our life course. The meaning we attach to an experience is often more important than the experience itself. Numerous people can experience the same thing and attach a completely different meaning to it. And as we go through life, we attach meaning to everything. Those meanings turn into emotions, based on which, we make decisions, and ultimately, those decisions determine the kind of life we live.

Regardless of what happens to you, you have to accept that you, and only you, can make meaning of situations. Sadly, most of this happens on auto-pilot. Prepare to have your mind blown:

Over 70% of your thoughts on any given day are NEGATIVE.

What’s worse is that 90% of these negative thoughts are repeated and replayed in your mind DAILY.

This means that you’re reliving and replaying negative scenarios and manifesting negative emotions on auto-pilot all the time, whether you’re aware of it or not! This is almost entirely subconscious: Nobody decides they’re going to have a bad day, but circumstances just end up repeating themselves over and over. The more you give into negative meanings, the more negative you’ll feel in general. 

If you are constantly operating on a negative scale, you’re going to attract negative energy. The Law of Attraction is always at work, always in motion, and it is the most powerful law in the universe. Your emotions have energy, and you are creating your reality in every moment of every day. With every thought, you are creating your future.

Can I ever take control?

There’s always good news – YOU can take responsibility for the story you tell yourself. You can seek NEW meaning from everyday events. When you’re confronted with a negative emotion, you have the choice to acknowledge it and develop a positive meaning instead. Emotions have energy. Love is by far the highest on the scale, and its polar opposite is shame, guilt, and regret. While love is life-giving on the energy scale, shame is soul-sucking and life-destroying. Nobody wants negative emotions.

The first thing you must accept in order to rid yourself of negativity is to acknowledge this universal truth: The people, experiences and circumstances that you attract into your life are always in the energetic range of where you currently are (not where you wish you were!) 

Negative thinking patterns have a strong, and often devastating impact on our relationships, our outlook, our health and our lives. People try many different tools to get rid of their negative thoughts. Distractions, diversions, ‘drowning their sorrows’ are just a few destructive behaviors that just numb the pain in the short term but only make things worse in the long term. It doesn’t fix the problem at its core

Let’s rewire your reality

Time to talk about reality! So, what if I also told you this: The past doesn’t exist. In any given situation, this is all you are left with: your version, my version, and the facts. You probably realize that many negative thoughts mostly flow from two directions: The first is dwelling on the past – reliving mistakes, focusing on problems and guilt, grappling with anything and everything in your life that did not go the way you believe it should have gone. The second is worrying about the future – anxiety about what may or may not happen for yourself or others.

If you want to attract more opportunities, the right relationships, financial success and maximize your business, you will have to rewire your subconscious. It sounds complex, but the reality is that humans are pretty complex too! Positive thoughts and positive things come to positive people, so practice a good demeanor about life. Examining the subconscious and rewiring the conscious will position you to live and respond from a place of positive energy and positive emotions. If you are struggling with negative thinking, I can tell you from my own experience that it is possible to turn things around, cultivate inner peace, and live a rich, meaningful and fulfilling life.

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